It is often said that transwomen can be more beautiful and feminine than actual women. You hear transwomen say that women who do not conform to femininity cannot measure up and are not real women, not as real as them…
So I’ve been thinking about what men get out of being with actual women. We know that they get services and free labor, such as: babies, cleaning, emotional support, physical care, sex etc… If transwomen are able to do some of that and “embrace” the lot of the oppressed then fine. Hopefully it frees up some woman to concentrate on something else.
But it’s more than that. When I think about the Burning Times, I know that men were absolutely paranoid about women’s spiritual capacities to the extent that they felt they had to obliterate as many of us as possible… when I think about the ways in which men try to destroy every single piece of women’s souls and bodies using porn and media as propaganda, it tells me that they are basically very fearful, and intimidated by the thought of women being whole. They are afraid of women’s integrity, having none themselves.
So the systematic destruction of women eases this sense of fear and inadequacy.
This is why, I think, that transwomen will never measure up. Because men can’t get much out of conquering another male, except perhaps a brief sense of superiority in the male hierarchy. And they get even less than that if the male in question is basically saying he enjoys, and fetishizes, being subordinate. Remember: transwomen have not been forced into femininity, whereas women have…
Women were not born to be penetrated. Or to serve men. That is not our raison d’etre. We were born to be free. Everybody knows this and that is why it takes such a sheer colossal effort to keep women down. Patriarchies have to pull out all the stops because they know that if they take their eyes off the ball for even a second, women will stop being oppressed and just walk away.
And that’s part of the thrill of conquering a woman. A real woman. A witchy, bleeding, erratic, real woman. Men know their power over women is tenuous, but at that particular moment, the very moment they get a woman to love them, or sexually serve them in some way, they are reassured that they haven’t yet lost the war.